The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Arklahoma]

I appreciate all the positive posts. In fact, I was pretty positive myself until the phone rang again. Yep, you guessed it. Akron passed on me, as well. I am stunned and can barely type ~ I'm pretty shocked, actually.

I'm logging out now, so I can chat with my DH and try to figure out some way to process this information without binging.

[Amber]

Don't forget to breathe; in & out & in & out...

[alpha femme]

hang in there, ark. obviously you were meant to go smewhere that you needed to be guided to. i do believe that now-- it's how i found mf, and this group, and hope. you seem like an amazing person, so i know that only the best in life awaits you.



in the meantime...
uh, could we not mention "in n out"?
i'm in cali, and that is my biggest weakness.

[mellowmom]

Hey Csula...

In a pinch I think you can have a single IN-n-out burger "protein style" for your lean and green...

240 Calories, 11g Carbs, 17g Fat...Ack! Maybe not...too much fat!
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Never Mind...

[Janae]

I am NOT from California and I was doing a brain scan for
"In 'n Out"???????? Hmmm*imagination runs away with itself*



So- it's food? I see!

(And...Ark...keep steady...all these bumps must mean someone is at work to make something unexpected, but wonderful happen for you!)

[Karakuri]

sorry to hear you didn't get your dream job, but that doesn't mean another opportunity will not arise. keep your chin up and your shoulders back. for every knock down, get right back up again. i wish you the best!

[Arklahoma]

Well, it's another day and I'm feeling a little more sane. I'd like to explain just a bit b/c I'm not so shallow as to become upset that I didn't get a specific job. I do have one in-the-bag here in Cleveland. In fact, I would have never quit my job if I didn't. The job that I have accepted (House Supervisor for a 300 bed facility) is a good job and it will boost my resume even though going into management did force me to take a substantial paycut. My DH and I are willing to make the sacrifice b/c it will pay off after I finish my M.S. in Health Care Administration. Now about Akron and what really happened ...

During the course of my Akron interviews, I had been told by everyone involved (HR dept, Nursing Directors, Clinical Managers, etc.) that the job was mine if I was willing to take it. Because of the Columbus opportunity, I almost didn't even interview but they persuaded me that I was right for the job and they wished I would come down (it's an hour drive south), in fact they literally begged me to so. I did go down and interview three or four times and did see that it would have been a perfect job for me. Even as late as July 3rd, when I went down for my last interview with the staff that I would be managing, the HR person came over and shook my hand and told me once again that the job was pretty much mine and that she hoped I would accept and that she would be in contact soon. Here's where the story gets murky.

Wednesday night, the phone rings and it's a male colleague from the CardioThoracic ICU unit that I just left. He tells me that Akron just called him to interview for the same job that I'm about to accept. I was stunned to say the least. He had been the ONLY nurse from my unit that I had discussed my job searching opportunities with ~ He was one of my references for Pete's sake!!! He said that he hoped that there would be no hard feelings but he really wanted to interview for this position. I asked him to not accept the interview b/c they were about to offer me the position. He basically said that he didn't care and that this opportunity would be a wonderful opportunity for him and his family and he was obligated to follow through. I continued to push him b/c I wanted to know how they had even come across his resume. He fabricated some story about how it was a mistake and he didn't know it was the same job I was interviewing for ~ blah, blah, blah ~ He knew in minute detail what my actions and interviews were, on a weekly basis, and he was very well aware that I had been working with Akron for weeks on this specific job title. We were able to come to no consensus and we emailed each other a couple of times and that's the end. He said he was going to go on the interview and then I got a phone call from Akron stating that they were going to go another direction (within hours of his interview, I might add). I don't know if he got the job and I don't really care. All I know is that I worked side by side with this guy for over two years and trusted him greatly. For heavens sake, we did chest compressions, defibrillated and pushed drugs in codes together. Our working environment was very difficult and fast-paced ... he was one of only a few people that I would have trusted with my actual life. Now, he's completely stabbed me in the back over some pitiful job. Crap, now I'm crying again ...

[Amber]

Life lessons learned...
Opportunity knocks...
Time to move forward, best wishes!

[Serendipity]

Oh, Ark. My heart goes out to you. It is so hard to understand people who are willing to compromise their integrety. I know I'll never understand it....but the older I get, the more often I have my bubble burst by just similar actions to what you have described. It seems that in business, anything is OK as long as it gets you ahead. Well, I can't work that way and I don't want to be around anyone who does.

This does beg the question......if your potential new employers were willing to overlook that lack of integrety, what does it say about theirs?

Just keep your chin up. You know it was out of your hands.

[electra000]

Ark, I am so sorry to hear this. I know how hurt you must feel right now. Sending you hugs !

[DogMa]

Yeah, I know it's hard right now, but you're definitely better off not working for them in the long run. (And if he was one of your references, maybe that's how they contacted him? I've seen it happen before.)

[supermom]

"This does beg the question......if your potential new employers were willing to overlook that lack of integrety, what does it say about theirs?"


Right on Jo!! One of the hardest and most painful lessons in life, Ark, is figuring out the diference between a friend and an associate. There is a BIG diference. You uprooted yourself and moved across the country for this job. You worked with the guy and you trusted. As many of us do, you became able to trust him with personal stuff, not just work stuff. He stole from you. He was an associate. He, as a lot of men in healthcare are, is obviously in it for the money and the advancement, and not for the mere pleasure of caring for others in their time of need. I don't mean to bash men in general or even men in healthcare in general, but that has been my experience with men in healthcare (nurses, resp. therapists, physical therapists, sonographers, etc. not so much physicians). Keep your head held high my friend. You are a much better person than him and the people you are going to be working with need someone with your spirit, compassion and caring and giving attitude on their side. You and I have talked a great deal about healthcare and the "issues" that I have with the quality of nurses that are out there. This is your chance to make a big diference for a lot of people. Try to see this as the opportunity that it really is. We love you Ark. Call me if you need to. I will be home most of the day. If not, call the cell.

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[FORMOMMY]

Hugs to you Ark.....what a terrible thing to have to go through. The one thing that we have control over is our integrity and that guy just threw his away for a job. I don't know how he can look at himself in the morning - no matter....I am a firm believer that it will come back to haunt him for sure! You can call it karma (I call it reaping what you sow) but either way, he will have to pay for the deceipt and trickery that he displayed.

I hope that you are feeling better by the time you read this.

[alpha femme]

here's hoping he becomes impotent.

[Karakuri]

for the love of bob... if i knew this guy, i'd probably make his life utter hell. this just makes me so ANGRY knowing he did this to you. granted, i do not know you from outside of your posts here, but still... people behaving like that are very self-centred and greedy.

regardless of what's happened, you do need to climb back up on that horse (yes, i know, a total cliche) and push upward and onward.

if you've come this far, then i know you'll go further and aquire your dream job in another form. kind of an occupation reincarnation.