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[Lasi]

Good Morning,

I was reading a book last night. (Don't remember the exact name.)

The part I was reading was about words we speak to ourselves, others, and also the words spoken to us as we grew up.

I don't know when or how I new I was heavier than others. I just always knew. In high school, it was not a lot more, but I knew I needed to be careful. I didn't. My first job was at Baskin Robbins, so you can guess I gained some weight. My weight increased as I went to college. I got married right after high school and my ex h wasn't exactly complimentary to me. I just continued to get worse. I thought I was fat, so I just got fatter.

My words in my head over the years have been negative to myself. I need to work on correcting that.

I need to really change the words in my head, my words I speak about myself, the words I speak to others, and the words I speak about others. I don't think of myself as one who gossips, but I know I do some - thinking I am not hurting someone. The words we speak negatively are words spoken out of fear. The words others speak to us that cause us hurt, or unease are spoken out of someone else's fear.

What words are in your head today? Where did they come from? What words are you going to say today that can help someone else?

We need to start new patterns.

[katesmom]

Lasi,
I totally agree with you...Words are so important...Especially kind ones...I agree that we can all give ourselves negative self-talk or not !

Thanks for your post !

[Lasi]

I am going to try and remember these word every day. I want to make life a bit more pleasant.

[Diana]

Wow! Great post, Lasi!! Mind if I use your questions with my students?

[bikipatra]

I ride the bus and train a lot and if I see a woman with a particularly pretty piece of jewelry or cute purse, I don't hesitate to tell her. I am telling the truth and could have really brightened her day. I know I get into my 12 step talk too much, but in one part of the literature it says that our job is to have the best relationship possible with everyone we encounter. That means my husband and the checkout girl at the store. We don't have to be effusive we just need to cause no harm. I see people every day take out their frustrations on sales clerks, because they can get away with it. I have been guilty myself. Even if a sales clerk has an attitude I don't have to have one too. I am in control of the words I use.

[katesmom]

Amen Biki !
You have just reminded me that even for today- I do have to be pleasant to all I meet... Even my DH !!!

It just makes life much easier ! I used to be that person who would snap at the sales clerk...Now I ask myself, "Why" ? It is so much easier to be kind...

Have a great day !

[Lasi]

Diana, sure you can use my questiong with your students. I would love to know the feedback you get.

Biki - I know what you mean about the checkout people. I try to get someone to smile, who looks really bored. I also thank the customer service person on the phone when we have resolved a situation.

Katesmom - give a compliment to your dh today and if shopping to a sales clerk, have fun with it.

Today I will focus on positive words to all I talk to.

[Hopebaby]

Thanks for the post Lasi - it was great! I copied it and emailed it to myself. I am going to edit for me personally and print it out to keep at my desk. we are going through so much turmoil at work I may post a generic version on my office door.

Linda

[BabyTrace]

This post is a great reminder to do unto others....

I mentioned in an earlier post that I am alone in Michigan while my husband is in Tennessee. I work from home, so I have not seen anyone that I know for going on 12 weeks. Even a sincere smile from a complete stranger can make my day. Compliments are like candy for me right now.

[Lasi]

If I were there, I would stop by and chat. I bet it is a lot cooler there than it is here. I might even go for a walk.

[BabyTrace]

Yep, it's been freakishly cool here. Sunday morning it was only 47 when I got up. Highs the past few days have been low 70s, but warmer weather is on its way back...but still only in the low 80s.

I'm native southerner so I know all to well about the heat and humidity. Plus I get the full report of the 100 degree weather every night from my husband in Nashville and my mom in Arkansas.

I feel for you guys down there, but I have to admit, I'm enjoying my last Michigan summer. The winters are brutal up here, but the 3 months of summer are a dream.

Try to stay cool. Fall will be here before you know it!

[bikipatra]

Yep, it's been freakishly cool here. Sunday morning it was only 47 when I got up. Highs the past few days have been low 70s, but warmer weather is on its way back...but still only in the low 80s.

I'm native southerner so I know all to well about the heat and humidity. Plus I get the full report of the 100 degree weather every night from my husband in Nashville and my mom in Arkansas.
!

It is strangely cool here too. 64 right now. I'm a little cold. I grew up in Dallas so I am used to higher temperatures in August, although it is only 80 there today. I don't miss those heat waves of 100 degrees for days at a time.

[DogMa]

80 in Dallas??? Say what? The LOW here has been 80; the high is in the mid-90s all week, with higher-than-normal humidity.

And Trace, you haven't seen anyone you know in 12 weeks? No friends or anything? I'm so sorry. I can't imagine that. I hope you at least talk to your husband frequently.

[BabyTrace]

And Trace, you haven't seen anyone you know in 12 weeks? No friends or anything? I'm so sorry. I can't imagine that. I hope you at least talk to your husband frequently.

Nope, haven't seen a soul. Only neighbors and store clerks in passing. I do talk to my husband at least an hour every night. And usually my mom, SIL or neice every day or so. I'm heading to Nashville in 6 more weeks. I haven't told my husband I'm on a diet so he's going to be shocked when he sees me. I can't wait!

[DogMa]

That's very cool about the weight surprise. He won't recognize you at first!