The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[FutureEMT]

Not yet, I had an appoinment but they called and rescheduled it. I'm still waiting....bummer...thanks for asking though Biki!

[FutureEMT]

hey all! I got a job a few days ago! Sorry, really excited about that...pretty cool too, work in a grocery store, in the deli...I think it's cool that I have a job that puts me at risk for losing a finger...lol....weird huh?
Anyway, checking in with everybody, hope your all shakin' well Now that I have a job I can officially fund my medifast so I now know that I can stay on it the whole way through! I simply didn't want to ask my parents to fund another weight loss program for me...they've spent too much on that stuff and it never worked so this time maybe I'll stick to it cause it's my hard earned money.

I had a great weekend, I got to hang out with my cool new friend, she's totally awesome, had a blast! Anyway, gotta go, I go in at 9am and I'm already past my sleepytime...have a good one!
Britt

[Tawanda]

Congratulations on the job!

[FutureEMT]

I've had MF for exactly 3 months now...it's sitting on my kitchen table in the box...I can't seem to get myself to do it...to take the plunge. I ordered MF exactly one day before my world came crashing down. I lost my Daddy, my hero, my mentor, the only parent I had left @ approx. 8pm Friday July 20th 2007. I found his lifeless body in the bathroom curled into a little ball, pinned between a wall and a wheelchair. I had no warning, I just woke up with a sense of something wrong. In the house it was so quiet, unearthly quiet...you could literally hear the air current in the room. I walked a few feet down th hall to destiny and there he was. I blame myself everyday because I was asleep, because I didn't feel it coming, because the last words I said to him were harsh. We'd lived in a bad situation for 2 years, he'd lost his legs, he was constantly sick, I was frustrated and tired. For the last five months things were great; he was healthy. Some people say things get better right before you die. I say that it's a tease, nature's way of making you think things are finally getting better just to set you up for her big surprise. I'm having a heard time seeing the point in living so my MF sits alone, unopened. I guess what I need is a little motivation...I don't know...forgive me for this post I just had to open up...now

[Mike]

Britt,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Although not exactly the same, I lost my dad when I was 25. He had diabetes, high blood pressure, kidney failure, congestive heart failure, loss of legs and fingers, etc.
I came in late one night and instead of checking in and saying good night to hi, I just went to bed. I was awakened the next morning by my mom asking me to check on him. He was gone (lying in the only comfortable position he could get in).

I guess you didn't need to know all that, but just for me to say I know a bit of where you are coming from. From that point on I continued to gain weight. Ultimately, it was my wife Diana (whom I met about a year later) who inspired me to get healthy.

At this point, you need to rely on the important people in your life who are still here. Yes, mourn for your dad, treasure the time you had here with him, but make sure that you take care of yourself.

As someone whose goal is to help others by becoming an EMT, you know how important life is. Remember that. Cling to that. Lean on the people here and others in your life.

Start Medifast. Its only going to make things better.

I hope my words help you.

[FutureEMT]

thank you mike, your words do help a lot. It's nice to know someone out there understands. I do need to start because I too( like you with your wife) have someone I love very much who inspires me to get healthy. They are very healthy, very active. I suppose I just don't feel like I have a purpose any more because there's no one left to take care of except me...I got used to putting my true needs aside for so long I've forgotten what they are. It's like standing in the forest with tools to survive but no idea on how or motivation to use them. I've got to get started, maybe if i just start moving I won't stop.

Thank you very much for your words...they brought comfort in this time of need. You don't know what it means

[Tawanda]

My sympathies on the passing of your father, what an incredibly rough time you've experienced. I wish you the best in finding your motivation to begin the program....we're here to support you when you are ready.

[DntCryLilEmoGrl]

aww dont apologize for posting something like that. this is EXACTLY what this forum is here for. To help each other out. whether or not ur the one that is helping someone else or the one that needs a boost. My dad died 4 years ago last month, I was 18 years old and him and I hadnt spoke to each other in nearly a year. I was thinking about calling him and kept putting it off until one day my aunt told me to come over her house after work, and thats when i found out he got killed in a horrible car accident. He was on his motorcycle when an SUV hit him while trying to pass a semi. I gained a lot of weight after that and failed out of college and well,

i felt the same way it sounds like you feel, most days, what is it worth to keep going. I thought i would break down and cry on the anniversary of his death this year. especially with my wedding actually coming. after he died one thing that struck me was , he wont be there if i ever get married, and not that if is turned into a definite and i put on about 10 more lbs after the engagement just from stress and thinking about that.

you know what happened on the anniversary of his accident though? I realized that even though that hurt and still does soooo much, and there are times i just cry and miss him so much, and still feel guilty. My life has gotten better, things do get better if you let them and im sure thats what both our fathers, and mikes would want, is for us all to be taking care of ourselves.

Your wound is much more fresh, so give yourself time, dont pressure yourself into starting if you arent ready to yet. Take care of yourself emotionally, and remember you have people that do care whether or not you are doing well, regardless of this diet. When you are ready, you will find the motivation you need and you will be on your way.

I have a good quote for you, i love collecting motivational quotes because sometimes i still get really down, in fact i was crying the night before last about my dad.

but this is for you, as well as a big hug. my heart goes out to you my dear.

"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-franklin D roosevelt

so hang in there... and if you need anything or just to talk feel free to message me.

[DogMa]

I'm so sorry to hear abouty your father. I lost my dad to a sudden massive heart attack when I was 30, and I lost my mom about a year later. Know that those harsh words meant NOTHING. Just as you understand that people say things out of anger, so did he and I'm sure he knew how much you loved him.

Give yourself some time to heal, but don't do what I did. I became clinically depressed and gained a ton of weight (I had just lost it and was a few pounds away from my goal on Weight Watchers when my mom died) - and worst of all, I waited much too long to get help.

I still miss my parents every single day (it's been 15 years since my dad died) and I still have what I call my "I want my mommy" moments, but life really DOES get better. Hang in there, and like everyone says, start when you're ready.

[MerryMary]

Hi Britt,
I want to offer you my deepest sympathy. I lost my father suddenly at the age of 26 and I still recall that night vividly. But what I remember even more is the love we shared even when the going was rough. You will find that place too ... parents have a way of loving us unconditionally. He was obviously very meaningful in your life--I'm sure the feeling was mutual. Please give yourself time to grieve and be gentle on yourself as well.

When time is right for you to start MF again you will know. Re-starting may even be healing. Think about it. It will put you in control of something when life seems to be spinning out of control. But you decide what is right for you. In the mean time you have my prayers and support. <img src="http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/17/17_1_10.gif" alt="SmileyCentral.com" border="0"><img border="0" src="http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http%253A%252F%252Fimgfarm%252Ecom%252Fimages%252Fnocache%252Ftr%252Ffw%252Fsmiley%252Fsocial%252Egif%253Fi%253D17%252F17_1_10/image.gif">

[FutureEMT]

Thank you everyone for the warm replies and sympathies. I will eventually start the program. I've got a lot of weight to lose. I know that if I don't do something about my weight eventually someday my children may repeat my recent disaster. I'm making very positive steps toward healing, I'm my own psychologist...lol...thank you all so much...truly wonderful people on here. God bless

[MerryMary]

Back at you, Britt
Blessings!

[Mike]

Just checking... you doing okay?