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Postby monz » May 26th, 2006, 7:42 am

Good mornin all.

I need some help (or whip) :whip: before I fall off the wagon, it's has been the tough for the pass couple of days, I had 1 birthday, 1 engagement the pass days... needless to say I ate food that I shouldn't have, and gain 1-2 lbs already :brickwall: , and this mornin I find that hard to get back on the plan left alone stick with it :x . And 1 more engagement tomorrow and 1 granduation next week.

Help... I feel so blue and sad...I also feel like a failure,I need all the help I can have, I refuse to fall off the wagon. :cry: Pls anybody have has any advise??
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Postby gr8bnme » May 26th, 2006, 8:22 am

well i'm no good with advice. in fact, in most situation i'm an enabler so i would say the wrong things. i know it's very difficult especially with all of your events and after tasting things off plan the cravings come back with a fury. I know someone here will give you some great advice...

you kinda have to get back into the medifast mindset. think about how far you've come and where you want to be and how much longer your journey will be if you eat off plan. it's mind over matter.

good luck and i hope you are able to overcome these obstacles!
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Postby loriannk » May 26th, 2006, 8:45 am

Hi Monz,

You have to remember WHY you started MF to begin with. You have to be strong when it comes to temptation. I too have been tempted. My daughter had her 1st communion and then my son turned 1. Two parties I had to cook for in 2 weeks. I did not stray, why? Because I want to lose weight, I want to be healthy again. When I think I am going to eat something off plan I take a minute to remember WHY I am on a diet to begin with. Do I really want to put that in my mouth for 5 sec of gratification and then have to go through another 3-4 day period getting back on track. No. So I stay on program. I admit it is hard a lot of the time. But you have to stay strong for yourself. Do this for you. YOU CAN DO IT! Just get your butt back on the program, eat your meals a little closer together if you think your not going to make it. Eat your snack. Drink your water. Take 1 hour at a time. Post here instead of going to the frig or to snacks.

I believe you can do it, you must believe too.

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Postby Drama Queen » May 26th, 2006, 9:32 am

Hi Monz,

Unfortunately, no one said this was going to be easy. The road to good health using Medifast is a very straight and narrow one. That doesn't mean we aren't going to be faced with temptations and sometimes give into them. But you have to remeber why and who you are doing this for....YOU!!!

As Nancy so wisely has said before, maybe you need to think of this plan as medicine. If your Doctor told you that you had a disease that was killing you and that by using the Medifast 5 & 1 plan you could be cured, you would stay on plan no matter what. Obesity can kill us and/or cause serious health problems. Medifast works in getting us to a healthy weight and heading off those nasty obesity related health problems.

It's really difficult when you have special occasions to celebrate. You have to plan ahead with your supplements and Lean & Green meal. Decide what and when you are going to eat for the day the night before. Don't leave things to chance. Always have supplements with you so you are not caught unprepared.

Let family and friends know you are on a special diet and what you can and cannot eat. Most people will be very accomodating to make sure there is something for you to eat that works on plan. If you are eating in restaurants that's even easier. They will be happy to prepare a piece of chicken or beef to your specifications and serve it with steamed veggies or a green salad.

Keep coming back to the Forum and reading all the inspiring posts. Go to the Studio seciton and look at the amazing before, during and after pictures to stay motivated. Post often and let us know how you are doing. You can do this!!! We are all here to help you get to your goal!!
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Postby monz » May 26th, 2006, 10:57 am

Thanks soooooooo much for you guys's reply, I know the first thing I have to do this mornin were to come in to this forum for some inspiration and motivation, I'm feeling much better now then I did last nite.

Drama Queen wrote:
As Nancy so wisely has said before, maybe you need to think of this plan as medicine. If your Doctor told you that you had a disease that was killing you and that by using the Medifast 5 & 1 plan you could be cured, you would stay on plan no matter what. Obesity can kill us and/or cause serious health problems. Medifast works in getting us to a healthy weight and heading off those nasty obesity related health problems.


Lori wrote:
When I think I am going to eat something off plan I take a minute to remember WHY I am on a diet to begin with. Do I really want to put that in my mouth for 5 sec of gratification and then have to go through another 3-4 day period getting back on track. No. So I stay on program. I admit it is hard a lot of the time. But you have to stay strong for yourself. Do this for you. YOU CAN DO IT!


gr8bnme wrote:
you kinda have to get back into the medifast mindset. think about how far you've come and where you want to be and how much longer your journey will be if you eat off plan. it's mind over matter.


Those are some great advise, sometime things in life got so out of hand that I get side track, i just really have to remember the reasons I'm on this plan in the first place, and NO I refuse to put this off longer than I have to, and NO I don't want the doc to tell me i needed to be on med because of serious health problems.

I'm well perpared this morning, I packed all my RTDs, bar for work and plenty of wawa :D So far I have be stickin to plan, 1 RTD and 1 bar so far and 1 more RTD in about 15 mins. Once again, thanks!

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Postby dede4wd » May 26th, 2006, 11:22 am

Monz,
It happened, it's over. You got some GREAT advice! Remember why you started, remember your goal, and get back on the wagon. I am standing behind the wagon ready to give it a push to help get it rolling again! So are many others on this site.

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Postby jump4joy » May 26th, 2006, 11:37 am

Monz, you've gotten some GREAT advise so I'll only add a few more thoughts.....I was suffering from intense PMS cravings and slipped over the weekend. I tried to minimize the damage by continuing to have my MF meals, and I WROTE DOWN every bite I put in my mouth for awareness and accountability....I know that writing it all down made it so that I didn't just mindlessly binge and it kept it down to a minibinge. I only ate two different things off-program both days, and was back on-plan right away monday morning. I lost the 4 pounds I put on right after the cheat-weekend and am down another 2 lbs. from last week.

My Dr. prescribed a low-dose appetite suppressant (15 mg. Phentermine) that I only use for emergencies (if I ever go out of ketosis by eating off-program) so that I can get through the two days it takes me to get back in ketosis. That works for me, but I make sure that I don't get dependent on them.....Ketosis works so much better to depress appetite than pills do.

Usually it's my Inner Brat (Joycie) that wants to EAT the forbidden stuff, so sometimes I give her a Time Out for 15 minutes and put that wide, clear packing tape over my mouth! :no:

Try to develop a patient mind-set and tell yourself you're in this for the long haul. And don't fall victim to black and white all-or-nothing thinking....trying to either do the diet PERFECTLY or else you're inhaling everything that isn't nailed down! Be kind to yourself and remember that other's have been successful on this plan (without being perfectly PERFECT) and you can do it too!
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Postby DogMa » May 26th, 2006, 2:12 pm

I was battling some MAJOR cravings the other day, after falling off the wagon for two days last week during my move. Basically, it was the same thing again: I went too long without eating and was unprepared, and I was hot and tired and sore from more moving-related tasks.

BUT I didn't give in. Three things helped me:

1. I am SO close to 139, and I kept reminding myself how much I want to get to the 130s before roll call. I knew if I had even one cheat, I wouldn't recover quickly enough to make it.

2. After reading some posts here about the lobster chops at Red Lobster, I had talked a friend into going there with me tomorrow for dinner. On plan, but still a treat. I told myself if I gave in to the cravings Wednesday, I wouldn't allow myself to have my treat on Saturday. (Kind of a food reward, but the way I see it, it's how normal people eat - and how I live my life in relation to money and things like that. If I splurge today, I don't do it tomorrow, too.)

3. I reminded myself that I only wanted those things because I was tired and hot and hungry - and because they were THERE. I told myself that if I held out a little longer, I'd be home and comfortable and eating what I SHOULD be eating - and that it would taste good and I'd be happy with myself for resisting, rather than eating something I shouldn't and being angry at and disappointed with myself. ... Turns out I was right.

So hopefully tomorrow I'll be in the 130s (I've been hovering at 140.2 for days) AND I get to go out tomorrow night and have those darn lobster chops. My advice: Be your own best friend. If your friend posted what you did, what would you tell her? Well, tell yourSELF that. Out loud, if you need to. Believe me, I was mumbling to myself in the car all the way home, every time I passed a tempting restaurant. I may be crazy, but I'm going to be THIN, darn it!!
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Postby lifelovinaries » May 26th, 2006, 9:08 pm

You have gotten great advice so far Monz. I know EXACTLY how you feel because I experienced the same scenario right after mother's day. It was SOOO hard for me to get back on plan. After a week of eating the wrong things, fortunately I had only gained 2 lbs. Unfortunately, this also put me 2lbs further from my goal (again!). Just look at it as ~ the longer you stay off plan is the longer you have to stay on plan! It is easy for us to say "it happened, it's the past, just jump back on plan". But you will also read about those who fell off and took a while to get back on (in some cases more than a few months). Don't let this be you. You know what worked for me? It just so happened that at the end of my BAD week, my HA popped in and sent me an email, just checking up on me because she knew weekends were my hardest. She didn't know at the time that she was actually a life saver. Up until that point, I had dropped off from posting a lot (it allowed me to avoid being accountable for what I perceived to be weakness). I lurked around the posts reading of everyone else's successes (as well as failures). The successes depressed me even more but the failures still did not give me the "see it can happen to anyone" mentality. The truly divine intervention of my HA (Hi Becky!!! ~thanks) gave me the one on one support that I guess I needed at that time. It allowed me to be accountable to ONE person (and cry at my failures as I typed, responding to her emails) and now I am brave enough to be held accountable here on the forum. I have now been back on plan for a solid 4 days, already dropped 3.5 lbs and I am going full steam ahead. But guess what?!? This weekend is my son's Memorial day Baseball tournament so I will be out of town. I have it in my mind to stick to plan but sometimes my mind has other ideas (obviously). I don't think i will get to visit here much between tomorrow and Monday which is going to make it that much harder. Either way, all I can do is give it my all and just keep thinking of my MF dysfunctional family (as dede puts it) and keep it movin'!!!! So good luck and if I can do it, so can you!!!

I say all this to say, contact your HA if you have one, if not, get one. They can offer a lot of good advice, insight and encouraging words. It may be EXACTLY what you need! Sorry this has been soooo long but I hope it has helped. :hug:
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Postby monz » May 27th, 2006, 7:18 am

Good morning all!

Thought I check in this mornin to let you all know how's my day went yesterday, it went well... heck, it went really well. I had 5 RTDs, 1 bar and L&G, I had one extract shake because I was feeling hunry by 5p.m. and dinner not till almost 7p.m. I figure one shake is better than P & J sandwich. :mrgreen:

I'm well prepare this morning. Have an early start, so I pack an extract RTD just in case, and the BBQ (engagement party) is this afternoon, I spoke with the bride to be (my best friend) she's happy that I'm making my commitment on losing weight and she's more than happy to accommodate me on the L&G part and agree to :whip: me if things get out of hand :grin: . Before I have this heart to heart talk with her, she has call to asked me to be her bridemaid, I was stunned and tear started to roll down my eyes, it was a very emotional moment for the both of us. Anyhow, now I have more reasons to stick with MF! ;) and my determination has inspire her to become my weight loss buddy! :D So we decided to make time to work out together :weightlift: :treadjog:

Thanks to all for your great advises, I'm grateful for all of you to get me though the tough time, is good to know I'm not alone in this, I can't thank you enough. You guys are the greatest! :D

Love & hugs! :hug:

Together we can do it! :stroll:
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Postby dede4wd » May 27th, 2006, 1:19 pm

Monz,
So glad to hear things went well! It's great that the bride to be is on board a I think she'll be a great support for you!

Good job!

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Postby sidrah » May 27th, 2006, 7:48 pm

COngrats. Add that to your list of reasons to stick with it. You are doing great. It seems like you are into those RTDs. Good for you. Find something that works and stick with it.
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Postby falisamarie » May 28th, 2006, 6:37 am

Monz~

I am so glad to read that you are doing better. Hang in there and remember life happens! You are doing great and what counts is that you got right back on the wagon and are on your way again

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Postby monz » May 28th, 2006, 7:18 am

Thanks DeDe, I'm glad to have a best friend like her, weight loss is a subject that her and I are very sensitive about, we don't talk about it, she loss over 40lbs herself 2 years ago. So I'm happy that we can be each other support ( she stiil try to lose another 15-20lbs for her wedding). :)

Thanks sidrah, I LOVE RTDs, can't say that enough, don't know what I'll do without them (I don't like shakes) :lol:

Thanks Lisa, great to hear from you. I'm glad I decided to come in here for inspiration that morning, instead of giving up and as you know I just place my order.... I'm glad for all of you wonderful MF losers :D

:goteam: Together we CAN do it :goteam:

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