Posted: July 21st, 2004, 11:25 am
Sheryl, Welllllllllllllllllllllllllll, I don't know what's rude about declining the invite - I guess it's just one of those things I've been taught. "You have to do 'x'", and have blindly obeyed my upbringing. Maybe I need to relearn that I don't always have to follow Ms. Manners to the T.
And Mike, honestly, if I were to give a gift and not attend, one of the troublemakers would certainly find something derogatory to say about it. After all, I don't wash my hands right and I lean back in my chair. Until I had a huge bulletin board installed over my window, they used to come in and adjust the blinds so that they could stand in the hallway and watch me without me knowing it. I've never experienced anything like this in my life, I've never had anything other than very minor presonality issues at any job, and I feel like I walk around here with a bullseye plastered to my back.
It's unfortunate that the situation has progressed as far as it has - thanks to a boss who didn't stop it before it got to this level. One of the women had applied for my job (before I applied) and been turned down, and apparently that makes her hate me. One of my projects over the next couple months is to attempt change here - to a more reasonable, adult environment - failing that I will ask that the supervisor designation be removed from my job description and asked to be moved to another area where I don't have to deal with this every day. You're right being around such negativity brings me down every day. I guess I am very susceptible to what's going on around me, and try as I may I cannot shut it out. Neither can I just keep my door closed all the time.
Case in point, the day before I left for vacation I woke up very ill, with the flu, and was trapped in my bathroom for several hours. (ick) I'm worried about whether or not I will be able to fly the next morning and my boss keeps calling me because he can't find things. Towards the afternoon I thought I could make it to the office to show him what he was looking for. I walked in and by the time I got to his office the trouble makers at the far end of the hall had called the trouble makers at my end of the hall to report that I had just walked in the door. I know this because as I walked in the girl at this end of the hall was saying 'Oh she just walked in the door?' It's sheer lunacy. On the other hand it would probably make for a good soap opera, maybe I should take notes and right a screenplay, LOL
And Mike's right, people can only push me as far as I am willing to let them, this one just ambushed me and I had no point of reference for dealing with it. <shrug> oh well, life goes on, but I am definitely going to explore the 'learning to decline invitations' thing, regardless of what Mom said when I was 4!
Carrie
And Mike, honestly, if I were to give a gift and not attend, one of the troublemakers would certainly find something derogatory to say about it. After all, I don't wash my hands right and I lean back in my chair. Until I had a huge bulletin board installed over my window, they used to come in and adjust the blinds so that they could stand in the hallway and watch me without me knowing it. I've never experienced anything like this in my life, I've never had anything other than very minor presonality issues at any job, and I feel like I walk around here with a bullseye plastered to my back.
It's unfortunate that the situation has progressed as far as it has - thanks to a boss who didn't stop it before it got to this level. One of the women had applied for my job (before I applied) and been turned down, and apparently that makes her hate me. One of my projects over the next couple months is to attempt change here - to a more reasonable, adult environment - failing that I will ask that the supervisor designation be removed from my job description and asked to be moved to another area where I don't have to deal with this every day. You're right being around such negativity brings me down every day. I guess I am very susceptible to what's going on around me, and try as I may I cannot shut it out. Neither can I just keep my door closed all the time.
Case in point, the day before I left for vacation I woke up very ill, with the flu, and was trapped in my bathroom for several hours. (ick) I'm worried about whether or not I will be able to fly the next morning and my boss keeps calling me because he can't find things. Towards the afternoon I thought I could make it to the office to show him what he was looking for. I walked in and by the time I got to his office the trouble makers at the far end of the hall had called the trouble makers at my end of the hall to report that I had just walked in the door. I know this because as I walked in the girl at this end of the hall was saying 'Oh she just walked in the door?' It's sheer lunacy. On the other hand it would probably make for a good soap opera, maybe I should take notes and right a screenplay, LOL
And Mike's right, people can only push me as far as I am willing to let them, this one just ambushed me and I had no point of reference for dealing with it. <shrug> oh well, life goes on, but I am definitely going to explore the 'learning to decline invitations' thing, regardless of what Mom said when I was 4!
Carrie